What is success? There are many definitions, but there's one thing all the greats agree on: Success only comes by persevering despite failure. Don't wish it were easier; wish you were better.
Just What Is the Meaning of Success?
Rather become a man of value. It's quite simple, really: Double your rate of failure. You are thinking of failure as the enemy of success. But it isn't at all. You can be discouraged by failure or you can learn from it, so go ahead and make mistakes. Make all you can. Because remember that's where you will find success. The more they succeed, the more they want to succeed, and the more they find a way to succeed.
Similarly, when someone is failing, the tendency is to get on a downward spiral that can even become a self-fulfilling prophecy. It's whether you let it harden or shame you into inaction, or whether you learn from it; whether you choose to persevere. An ill-ambition to be accepted by all usually has an unhappy ending— we are liked by no one, not even by ourselves. The dread of defeat and low self-assurance have somewhat of a complicated affair—fear undermines our self-esteem. Low confidence, in turn, makes us more sensitive to failure.
Our sense of worth becomes directly tied to all-or-nothing outcomes. Victories will make us feel over the top and downturns will cause a further dip in our self-esteem. An unhealthy sense of perfectionism also often completes the above recipe. Being driven to do or give our best is, of course, a good thing, but there is always a line, which, after being crossed, things quickly spiral downward. Guess what? People are too centered on their own selves and lives to have the time to focus much on others.
We are usually the ones who cause ourselves all the stress and grief. So, give yourself permission to fail, to not be perfect all the time, to have a bad hair day, to take responsibility for your missteps.
The Art of Failing in School and Succeeding in Life – A.J. JULIANI
Fear is natural, everyone has it, and everyone fails. Finally, to reach a state of unconditional self-approval, we must not tie our worth, personal and professional, to externalities. Rather, focus on finding your own path and pace. Image courtesy of Twenty Evelyn Marinoff is a writer and an aspiring author. On her website evelynmarinoff.
35 Signs You’re Succeeding At Life (Even If It Doesn’t Feel Like It)
Your email address will not be published. Notify me of followup comments via e-mail. You know the moment when you are desperate to start making money and stop your savings from bleeding? You see, I had a weakness for that kind of copywriting. You need the right conditions. You need to have the right environment in order to gain traction and take things to the next level.
But wait a minute — you need the right conditions to be met. The same goes with your career and business. You need to have the right conditions in place, and create the perfect environment for yourself and your work to thrive. Neither is it about journaling your butt off. In more practical terms, building your business upon the right conditions is about these following things, and so much more.
Building a successful business is shedding your old identity and building a new one — all the while finding new people along the way that support your vision. Your success is built upon all the other things that happen in between and along the journey for every self-made person that no one told you about. Success is driven by a variety of different things, such as your environment and different opportunities that come up in life.
However, the vast majority of where success comes from is your mindset. While your mindset plays a huge role, there was something I learned through NLP, known as Neuro-linguistic programming, that completely revolutionized my ability to create success in my life. Because success is dependent on your mindset, it is naturally dependent on your programming. Like many others who have started practicing personal development, you have likely developed a level of mindful awareness as to your mindset. That level of mindfulness helps you understand what is going on an internal level, shaping your life, and bringing you the results you are experiencing.
Now at this point, it is only fair to say that even when you are going strong on your path to success, unpleasant things can still happen.
A key part of achieving success for myself hinged around learning to walk away and let go, which enabled me to free myself from various negative factors. Having a high level of mindfulness means you can discern surface level chatter from your mindset. Each thought provides insight from deeper levels of your mind, which when pieced together through meditation, can really open amazing veins to mine success from. Changing those layers of thoughts and beliefs about yourself , life, business, and the world around you offers great value as a result.
Going to the depths is where real magic comes though. Each moment is all we need, not more. At the core of your mindset, are your values. Your values are then wrapped in outer layers of personal beliefs and experiences. While most people are aware of surface thoughts and some gain awareness of core beliefs, very few ever understand their actual values. Yet with values being the foundation of everything in your life and thus your ability to achieve success, they are the most critical to understand and know.
Values are incredibly simple things too, because they are generally comprised of single word descriptions. They are usually intangible, apart from one or two exceptions. Often when people do find out what their values are, there is suddenly a huge wave of understanding as to why they have been getting the results they have in life.
I know I was shocked when I first went through an exercise to discover my values for relationships, work, money, and personal development. I suddenly had a list that defined everything that had been going on and why. When things like love are way down on a list, certain challenges become very understandable.
Likewise, seeing money at number five in my values for work shocked me and made me realize why things had been so challenging. Just getting this insight gave me a massive wake up call. Understanding what your values are brings an opportunity for more than just understanding, it brings a chance to take action in a way which can revolutionize your life. Through gaining this deep insight into how I was creating the circumstances of my life, I was then able to take action, adapt, and change my core values so I could get the real results I wanted.
Clearing my way to success did involve a degree of releasing various layers of negative emotion, which I did through Time Line Therapy and some NLP coaching techniques. Time Line Therapy enables the release of a lifetime of negative emotion in around one hour, making it powerful when done right. Having used Time Line Therapy to cleanse out, I found myself in a wonderful place of empowered clarity.
From there, I was able to completely reconstruct my values system by empowering myself with the values of the person I knew I needed to be to enjoy the success I had visualized. As time progressed I found that there were more opportunities coming my way, or maybe I just noticed them better. Either way, things had definitely shifted up a gear. This NLP coaching technique has massively transformed my life, and my ability to achieve success with my goals and dreams.
Imagine a world in which the constant digital distraction does not give your emotional intelligence a beating. A place where you can engage with others and not feel guided towards conflict and negativity. Sadly, this is not the world that we live in with regards to social media.
We are all looking at the universe through our own keyhole. Our viewpoint will be based on various factors such as where we live, our education, our social group, and perhaps our income level too. We see this on Facebook all the time, especially when a viewpoint is country centric. We believe that our country or culture does things the right way, and that everyone should adhere to the same standards. This can be seen around major issues such as human rights and birth control.
Additionally, this can be seen with micro conflicts that can be just as emotive, such as is it ethical to declaw a cat? Statements can be made without taking a moment to realise that people from other countries, cultures, and backgrounds may read it. The point of the platform should be to communicate , to find out more, and add depth and range to your opinion. Sadly, nationalism seems to be on the rise across the west, and seeing the world in absolutes is one of the causes of this. In person, the rest of the meaning is made up from body language and how the words are said.
Even then, things can still be taken out of context or misconstrued. Online, misunderstandings can happen all the time. It seems that some social media users are primed for conflict. A simple factual correction can be deemed an attack, or to be defending someone the original poster dislikes. We see this a lot in political discussions, as well as the many movements that are currently sweeping across the social and political landscape. Your personal profile is part of your brand, and you should be using it to develop emotional connection, trust, and authority.
A simple misstep, or being drawn in to a vicious argument, can ruin your standing and perhaps even your business. Do these people know you? How well have they expressed their point?
Should you ask for clarification before taking it personally and launching a war of words? See the best in people, and then respond. This is common in entrepreneurial circles, and I suspect it might be an engagement hack. We are led to believe that someone has been attacked, or trolled, for something they said, did, or perhaps even for one of their products. Unable to just move on and put it down, they activate their tribe of like minded people. A virtual mob is formed, with the intention of supporting the posters viewpoint, and getting involved in the drama.
If it was online, and the attackers name is known, then screenshots of the conversation may be shared. Some of the horde may break off and go and engage directly by posting their opinion on the original discussion. Something else people do is adding fuel to the fire.
A defensive force is mustered to counter this. We then have two groups of people yelling at each other with digital megaphones and with no intention of communicating effectively, learning, or listening.
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The sun sets once again on the digital landscape. On social media, you may be communicating with people who have English as a second, third, or fourth language. They may have wildly different educational backgrounds to you or be going through an incredibly stressful time in life, so be kind to everyone. Online written communication is an appalling way to get your point across, and even in person we have roadblocks to traverse in order to avoid miscommunication. Life is stressful enough as it is without creating conflict.
Why do so many entrepreneurs or business owners fail to constantly show up in their business, connect to their audience and share their message?